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📆 Daily Issue 96 | ⏱️ Read time: 2 min

Surrendering to the Crucible of Change: The True Path to Personal Growth

Becoming new is one of the most frightening processes in the human experience.

Personal development courses often paint growth as a simple, easy path. Personal development is described as a ‘glow-up’ or ‘leveling-up’, creating the false narrative of a simple, fun process.

True personal growth can be a blood bath. It brings up grief, tears, shame, and our deepest core wounds.

True personal growth asks you to let go of all your beliefs and assumptions to allow something new and beautiful to emerge.

True personal growth requires you to ground into realities you’ve spent a lifetime avoiding.

There is a moment in your personal growth journey when you realize you have reached the point of no return. Your old self, with all of her good and bad qualities, ceases to exist. You are forced to face the reality that you are never going back to who you once were.

It's a humbling process, to surrender to the passage of time.

But as challenging as it is to become new and face our present reality. Nothing is as hard as living with regrets of the past or fantasies of who we could have become if we made different choices. Our regret loops are a personal Hell that no man or woman should ever be subject to.

We must hold our heads high. We must face our trauma and mistakes with our shoulders back and our dignity intact. We must keep moving forward.

Wherever you are in your life process, consciously or unconsciously, you are becoming new. Every day you make choices with your thoughts, decisions, and actions that affect the coarse of your life and your ever-changing identity. If we are not consciously aware of this process, we are often becoming worse and digressing into a more wounded, dissociated, and disempowered state.

We must have the courage to take charge of our reality and who we are becoming. We must have the courage to leave our pride and ego at the door and do the work required. We must have the courage to defy past experiences and believe in the beauty of something new.

It is never too late to believe in the person you are becoming.

We can do hard things.

Keep inspiring,

Nicole